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How much positivity do we need?
Here’s where it gets interesting: it’s not an amount; it’s a ratio. 3 to 1. Three positive feelings for every negative one. (This ratio issue seems to be a pattern in human flourishing. Research shows the best work teams have six positive experiences for every negative and happy marriages have a 5 to 1 ratio.) 1
We don’t need to delete all the negatives from life. Remember: it’s 3 to 1, not 3 to 0. We learn from the negative and feel good because at the positive. We just have to keep the balance.