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Things to do that attract
There’s something irresistible and even mysterious when we do things differently to most. 1
- Don’t interrupt.
- Such a simple thing. But it’s not easy to do.
- Many don’t even realise it when they do it, but they interrupt, not to be intentionally rude, but often out of insecurity.
- When we interrupt, we inadvertently signal our sense of inadequacy.
- We want to be seen. So we undermine the attention others are getting to steal back some for ourselves.
- This is low-status activity and will lose you respect.
- Give people space. This is what leaders do.
- They are in no rush and are totally happy for others to be in the limelight.
- Being vulnerable is respected when it serves a positive purpose.
- When I am willing to look ‘inferior’ to demonstrate a point that ultimately helps others, that’s strength.
- For example, you can tell me that you still get anxious before interviews, but you tell me so that I feel encouraged.
- You are showing me your humanity while lifting me.
- Be an occasional dick.
- You don’t always need to be nice to people if it’s done playfully.
- Go against the grain, be a little naughty, and you will have people falling in love with you.
- Be there.
- The next time you watch people interact, note how present people are in the conversation.
- A lot of the time, you will find people are anywhere but in the interaction. People are lost in their heads.
This will attract people to you, and often they won’t even know why. 1